Men and women may think sex is just sex. Hence, after a couple of months or even years it can feel like you have done it all. You know exactly where to put a hand, rub a particular area and bam you are there. Although, the act of penetration is pretty much the same, there are ways you can spice up your sex life.
Yes, getting dressed up and role playing is fun. But if the moves are the same every single time you run the risk of making your sex life pretty vanilla flavour. The human body has erogenous zones that when stimulated takes sex to the next level.
Whether it’s touching, bitting, pulling, when done right, these moves will take the dullness out your sex life. Men may worry they are being disrespectful or too rough with their partner. As long as no one is actually getting physically or emotionally hurt, fun and erotic sex among consenting adults is always welcomed.
#1. Breasts are there for a reason, stop ignoring them!
Guys tend to think breasts are only there for foreplay and tend to forget about them during intercourse. Breasts are highly stimulated through touching and caressing. Lightly and we mean lightly bitting the nipples will help a woman reach a bigger orgasm. If she’s on top of you, cup the breasts and tease them by circling around them with your fingers.
#2. Know where her G-spot is to help her reach orgasms of epic proportions.
The G-spot is the erogenous zone located two inches from the vaginal opening. The tissue in this area is highly sensitive causing high sexual pleasure when touched. Placing a couple of pillows under your partner’s butt will elevate her body, making it easier for you to touch the much coveted G-spot.
#3. Be spontaneous and surprise her with a quickie!
Women loved being surprised when it comes to sex. Don’t plan it out and go with the flow. If you find her irresistible when she’s reading or when she comes home from work, show it by seducing her right there and then. And it doesn’t mean you have to get all undressed either, just the undies off to get the action going is more than enough.
#4. You may not know this but gently pulling her hair gets her more aroused.
We don’t mean pulling it from behind acting out a hooker-style movie scene. Instead, grab strands and tug gently at them. This is ideal when you are engaged in a hot, passionate encounter where she wants it a little rougher than usual.
#5. She may be a lady every other time but talking dirty to her is hot.
Women love good poetry even if that poet talks dirty. We don’t mean calling her a “slut” or “whore.” We are talking about the gritty details you want to do to her as well as what you love about her body, her face. Women love hearing how good they are in the sack too.
#6. There’s a reason necking in school was so hot.
The skin in this area is thin and let’s face it’s extremely sexy to neck. Whether you are kissing, licking, or bitting her neck, this will make her horny for you. Remember kissing the collarbone area is also very stimulating.
#7. Giving her oral sex can get her to climax.
If your partner feels self-conscious when you go down there, ease into it. Start by touching and caressing the area to get her to relax. You also need to remember that for her to reach climax you have to vary what you do from licking, sucking, and even a gentle bite. You will know she is enjoying herself when she reacts to your moves.
#8. Blow her mind by getting her to orgasm during sex.
You can actually stimulate a woman’s clitoris during intercourse. It’s easier if she is on top. You can either cup her mound, press one or two fingers on her clitoris or simply rub her in that area. She’ll let you know as soon as you get her to climax.
#9. Don’t stop the kissing, even while you are having sex.
Kissing is such a sensuous, intimate act that you need to keep it going. And you can change the speed, strength, and motions based on the type of sex you are having. If it’s slow love making, then the kissing needs to be soft and gentle. If it’s hot and passionate sex, then it needs to be hot, dirty kissing.
#10. It’s ok to be dominant and aggressive. Just remember she has to be comfortable with it.
Women love it when guys are aggressive in bed. It’s erotic when you pull her closer to you and make her feel like you are about to devour her. Whether it’s throwing her on the bed, holding her wrists above her head, or gently pulling her hair, you need to be in command.
#11. Guys, don’t just leave after doing the deed.
Stay in bed and cuddle. Talk about the awesome sex session you just had. Suggest what you want repeated next time or what new sex escapade you both want to try. This is a great time to bond. And who knows you both might get second wind to go for another round.